11 excerpts from Siddhartha by Hermann Hesse: “Wisdom that a wise man attempts to impart always sounds like foolishness to someone else”

Siddhartha by Hermann Hesse

I recently finished Siddhartha [Kindle] by Hermann Hesse and highly recommend the book. It’s a fast and flowing read and a powerful story, especially if you’re into Eastern philosophy and Buddhism. Siddhartha is the story of a man, a seeker of wisdom and truth, whose life parallels that of Gautama, the original Buddha. Hermann Hesse has a wonderful and unique writing style and I wanted to share some of my favorite excerpts from the book.

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“Siddhartha,” he said, “why are you waiting?”
“You know why.”
“Will you go on standing and waiting until it is day, noon, evening?”
“I will stand and wait.”
“You will grow tired, Siddhartha.”
“I will grow tired.”
“You will fall asleep, Siddhartha.”
“I will not fall asleep.”
“You will die, Siddhartha.”
“I will die.”

The Brahman fell silent and remained silent for so long that the stars in the small window wandered and changed their relative positions, ‘ere the silence was broken. Silent and motionless stood the son with his arms folded, silent and motionless sat the father on the mat, and the stars traced their paths in the sky.

“Wisdom cannot be imparted. Wisdom that a wise man attempts to impart always sounds like foolishness to someone else…Knowledge can be communicated, but not wisdom. One can find it, live it, do wonders through it, but one cannot communicate and teach it.”

“Govinda,” Siddhartha spoke to his friend. “Govinda, my dear, come with me under the Banyan tree, let’s practise meditation.”

…this smile of Siddhartha was precisely the same, was precisely of the same kind as the quiet, delicate, impenetrable, perhaps benevolent, perhaps mocking, wise, thousand-fold smile of Gotama

“What is meditation? What is leaving one’s body? What is fasting? What is holding one’s breath? It is fleeing from the self, it is a short escape of the agony of being a self, it is a short numbing of the senses against the pain and the pointlessness of life. The same escape, the same short numbing is what the driver of an ox-cart finds in the inn, drinking a few bowls of rice-wine or fermented coconut-milk…”

He soon saw that Siddhartha knew little about rice and wool, shipping and trade, but that he acted in a fortunate manner, and that Siddhartha surpassed him, the merchant, in calmness and equanimity, and in the art of listening and deeply understanding previously unknown people.

Slowly, like humidity entering the dying stem of a tree, filling it slowly and making it rot, the world and sloth had entered Siddhartha’s soul, slowly it filled his soul, made it heavy, made it tired, put it to sleep.

“Most people, Kamala, are like a falling leaf, which is blown and is turning around through the air, and wavers, and tumbles to the ground. But others, a few, are like stars, they go on a fixed course, no wind reaches them, in themselves they have their law and their course.

“It may be important to great thinkers to examine the world, to explain and despise it. But I think it is only important to love the world, not to despise it, not for us to hate each other, but to be able to regard the world and ourselves and all beings with love, admiration and respect.”

“Have you also learned that secret from the river; that there is no such thing as time?” That the river is everywhere at the same time, at the source and at the mouth, at the waterfall, at the ferry, at the current, in the ocean and in the mountains, everywhere and that the present only exists for it, not the shadow of the past nor the shadow of the future.”

Why do happy people cheat? Esther Perel’s powerful TED talk: “Affairs in the digital age are death by a thousand cuts”

Alongside Gary Wilson’s presentation on porn, this was one of those talks that really stayed with me and had me mulling over its conclusions.

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Why Happy Couples Cheat | Esther Perel

  • adultery has existed as long as marriage, and so too the taboo
  • adultery is the only commandment repeated twice in Bible (once for doing it, once just for thinking about it!)
  • “monogamy used to be one person for life, today it’s one person at a time”
  • “we used to marry and have sex for the first time, now we marry and stop having sex with others”
  • infidelity estimates vary widely, from 26 to 75%
  • we are walking contradictions: 95% say it’s terribly wrong for our partner to lie about an affair, but same % say that’s what we would do if we were having one
  • infidelity used to threaten our economic arrangement, now it threatens our emotional arrangement
  • core problem: we believe one person can fulfill every need, thus infidelity threatens everything
  • “affairs in the digital age are death by a thousand cuts”
  • today we’re more inclined to stray than ever; we feel right to pursue our desires; we believe we deserve to be happy
  • “staying is the new shame” (after discovering an affair)
  • affairs — even by couples married and faithful for decades — are often a yearning for our old selves, for strength after loss (a parent dies, or you lose your job)
  • “not so much that we are looking for another person, but we are looking for another self”
  • one word unfaithful spouses use: ALIVE, they feel ALIVE
  • it’s not about sex but DESIRE
  • majority of experienced couples stay together, and can turn an affair into opportunity to grow
  • avoid mining for sordid details — better to move on, figure out meaning and motives, not logistics
  • “your first marriage is over, would you like to create a second one, together”

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Here’s my complete list of TED notes!

Can you be both a Buddhist Priest and a member of a Reform Jewish temple?

“A Question of Membership” is a case study published by Harvard’s Pluralism Project.

It describes a Zen Buddhist Priest’s efforts to become a member of a Reform synagogue in New York and is a fascinating story of personal faith, pluralism and its tensions, and how hard choices are made within Judaism.

Part A describes the initial meetings between Sherry Chayat, who was raised in a Jewish family and later became a Zen Buddhist priest, and Rabbi Sheldon Ezring of Temple Concord.

“One of the problems with being a Rabbi, and especially a Reform rabbi, is people think you can say ‘yes’ to everything, so you can’t say ‘yes’ to everything.” He explained, “I’ve had people come to me to convert, and I ask, ‘You’re Christian, so do you believe in Jesus as the Messiah?’ And they say ‘Yes,’ and they say, ‘I still want to convert.'” Ezring added: “And I have to say, ‘Well, I’m sorry, I can’t help you, because belief in Jesus as the Messiah is what makes you a Christian.'”

He added: “She was a Jew practicing Buddhism, and she wasn’t only practicing Buddhism, she considered herself a Buddhist priestess. If you are a priestess, you’re not practicing a philosophy, you’re practicing a religion.”

Part B details the advice Rabbi Ezring received from the CCAR, the American governing organization for Reform Judaism, and Rabbi Ezring’s ultimate decision and his reflections on that decision.

To be sure, there is no conflict between Judaism and meditative practices — after all, Jewish tradition itself is familiar with it. But we see a conflict when it comes to the world-affirming view we hold and that of a world-denying Buddhism.

One of his current congregants wrote a book about meditation, and recently led a Moon Rite, yet Ezring doesn’t raise the issue. “I don’t want to get involved in those issues at this point in my life, because I’ve passed the stage I want to fight every windmill. I’m just, I’m not Don Quixote these days.”

Part C covers Sherry Chayat’s life and upbringing and her reaction to being denied membership in Temple Concord. Today she is a major figure in American Buddhism.

“I would sit outside next to a tree and just let everything go, and kind of allow a river to flow through me. And I felt at one, at peace, and outside of the little bubble of misery that I had been in.”

“And to be a Zen priest means that I have given my life to this practice of Zen, of meditation, of waking up and of helping others to do the same. It doesn’t go against Judaism. And some people say, ‘Well, do you believe in God?’ Well, I believe in what we might call the ground of being or the ultimate or the supreme wisdom. I don’t have to call it God but I can call it God. It doesn’t bother me to call it God.

A fascinating study. I believe there is some truth to many if not all faiths, and powerful unifying themes among them. If you know of other resources like this, please let me know. Thanks for reading!

A Jewish carpenter, born in a stable, who never traveled more than ninety miles from his birthplace

Christianity is basically a historical religion. That is to say, it is founded not on abstract principles but in concrete events, actual historical happenings. The most important of these is the life of a Jewish carpenter who, as has often been pointed out, was born in a stable, was executed as a criminal at age thirty-three, never traveled more than ninety miles from his birthplace, owned nothing, attended no college, marshaled no army, and instead of producing books did his only writing in the sand.

He was born in Palestine during the reign of Herod the Great, probably around 4 B.C .—our reckoning of the centuries that purports to date from his birth is almost certainly off by several years. He grew up in or near Nazareth, presumably after the fashion of other normal Jews of the time. He was baptized by John, a dedicated prophet who was electrifying the region with his proclamation of God’s coming judgment. In his early thirties he had a teaching-healing career, which lasted between one and three years and was focused largely in Galilee.

Certainly puts things into perspective regarding history, achievement, and our life’s purpose. I’m enjoying Huston Smith’s book, The World’s Religions [Kindle].