2 of my all-time favorite Reddit threads

Reddit was the original Secret. It continually reminds me that while we’re 99.999% the same, that 0.001% can be soooo fascinating…

Throwaway time! What’s your secret that could literally ruin your life if it came out?

Some excerpts:

I run a cake business. I charge people hundreds for wedding cakes… Every last one is made using Pilsbury cake mix I buy for $1 a box at Walmart. I suck at baking. Every time I’ve ever tried to make a cake from scratch it sucked. But baking is like.. My whole deal. My friends all call me the cake girl.

Two and a half years ago I was in dire financial straights, so I sold my home to keep my struggling business afloat. I neglected to tell the owners that they have an 800 sq. ft. bunker on the property that I built about seven years ago. The bunker that I’ve called home since I sold it. The entrance to it is well-hidden, but I still come and go very early/very late in the day.

What is your biggest secret desire that you are ashamed of telling anyone?

I work as a nursing assistant at a retirement home, and the one thing I’ve always wanted to do is break a bunch of residents out. Something like a Ferris Bueller’s Day Off kinda day where me and about a hundred old people have an awesome day. Give them something to enjoy so close to their ends.

I want to be a house husband. All I want to do in life is write my novels, cook, clean, keep the finances, keep a nice house and fuck my wife when she wants.

Mihaly C. on how to achieve flow and why you stop feeling hungry or tired

Great talk from Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi (yeah…I had to just copy and paste this one), the man who invented the concept of flow.

Some brief notes and two useful screenshots for y’all:

  • ecstasy is an alternative reality
  • when we view monuments of the past (Chinese temples, Greek stadiums and theaters), we are really viewing places designed to elicit ecstasy (eg, you go to a sports stadium to feel moments of ecstasy and bliss)
  • the nervous system can’t process more than 120 bits at a time, which is why we can only process 2 people talking to us; when in flow, so many of those bits-slots are focused on the act that you literally cease to exist — you stop feeling hungry or tired, you stop paying attention to what’s around you (I bet some people get like that just playing Flappy Birds, though)

Flow diagram(flow comes when you are skilled at doing something, and are challenged by your current task; not enough skill and you feel anxious; not enough challenge and you feel bored)

Happiness stays fixed at 30%(despite society’s increasing income levels, self-reported happiness has stayed constant; this may be due, in part, to the relativity of happiness — if everyone’s income is higher, my relative income hasn’t changed)

Recent books: One World Schoolhouse and Tao Te Ching (The Book of Tao)

I’m reading more books, but finishing fewer of them. The trend needs to stop, but like a shopping addict at a Bloomingdale’s friends and family sale, I just can’t stop buying books! Books on books!

Some of my current reads: Hemingway’s A Moveable Feast (short stories of his years in Paris), Kazuo Ishiguro’s Remains of the Day, Kevin Kelly’s What Technology Wants

And I just bought Knausgaard’s My Struggle (Book 1), a series which is all the rage in Scandinavia and has finally landed State-side. Excited about this one.

But on to completed books, just two in May and June:

One World Schoolhouse by Salman Khan

This book tells Sal’s now widely-known story of how he started Khan Academy, and his vision for education which includes sensibly innovative proposals (eg, mixed-age classrooms) that most students will probably never see in their lifetimes.

It’s short, easy to read, and full of memorable anecdotes. My heartiest recommendation.

Tao Te Ching (The Book of Tao) by Lao Tzu

What can I say…it’s old (written in the 6th-century BC) and it’s a foundational text for taoism and Chinese philosophy.

Reading it is like walking on the staircase in that Escher painting. You think you’re going up, only to arrive back where you started, or worse, you don’t even know if you’re going up or down or if its a staircase at all.

But you can feel the beauty and power of its words. I’m on my second read-through, but like reading the Bible or any other old and influential and “mystical” text, its meaning comes to you in tiny bits and pieces as you chew on it, savor the flavor, and let it soak in life’s saliva. Yeah…you’re welcome.

Good friends, good books, and a sleepy conscience: this is the ideal life. – Mark Twain

The rich now work more than the poor

A recent Economist article explains how this happened.

Centuries ago, working long hours was generally seen as something done by the poor and uneducated.

Today, the opposite is true. As we’ve shifted from a manual labor society to a knowledge society, richer peoples’ work hours have continually grown while poorer folks’ hours have stagnated or even declined.

Some notes from the article:

  • In the 1800s, the average English manual laborer worked 64 hours a week
  • In 1965, the unemployment rate for high school graduates was 2.9% higher than college graduates; today it’s 8.4% higher
  • In 2005, college graduates had less leisure time than those with only a high school diploma
  • In 2013, college graduates worked 2 hours more each day than those with only a high school diploma
  • Why has this happened?
    • 1. Substitution effect – higher wages increase the opportunity cost of leisure
    • 2. Changing views on work – leisure used to be a badge of honor, something most people strived for; those with plenty of leisure time, such as the aristocratic/landed/upper class, spent their time doing things like writing, philanthropy, and art; today, hard work is viewed in a similar way
  • Employment prospects have declined for the poor, for those with low skill and low education levels

“I come to work to relax,” one interviewee tells Ms. Hochschild. And wealthy people often feel that lingering at home is a waste of time.

“Less educated people are not necessarily buying their way into leisure,” explains Erik Hurst of the University of Chicago. “Some of that time off work may be involuntary.”

Random quotes: “I loaf and invite my soul. I lean and loaf at my ease observing a spear of summer grass” – Walt Whitman

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. […] When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me. For now we see only a reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known. […] And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love. – Corinthians 13

a classic.

Remember, there’s no courage without fear – Bill Paxton in Edge of Tomorrow

great movie.

Do or do not. There is no try – Yoda

heard from Brad Feld in his ETL podcast

We don’t see things as they are, we see things as we are – Anais Nin

I had an impression that the real man, to his death unknown and lonely, was a wraith that went a silent way unseen between the writer of his books and the man who led his life, and smiled with ironical detachment at the two puppets – Somerset Maugham

now THAT is a well-written passage…

Today is victory over yourself of yesterday; tomorrow is your victory over lesser men. – Miyamoto Musashi

Nothing that you will learn in the course of your studies will be of the slightest possible use to you in after life, save only this, that if you work hard and intelligently you should be able to detect when a man is talking rot, and that, in my view, is the main, if not the sole, purpose of education. – John Alexander Smith

what the English call rot, we call bullshit

I loaf and invite my soul. I lean and loaf at my ease observing a spear of summer grass – Walt Whitman

loafing is underrated especially in these times…

Institutions will try to preserve the problem to which they are the solution. – Clay Shirky

something I hope to always remember

He that has once done you a kindness will be more ready to do you another, than he whom you yourself have obliged. – Ben Franklin

Of the quotes I’ve seen attributed to Ben Franklin, this one I question most

One of the best heuristics I found when deciding to invest/pass on a startup is whether I would seriously consider joining it, if asked. – Max Levchin

yes!

To establish a place of work where engineers can feel the joy of technological innovation, be aware of their mission to society, and work to their hearts’ content. – Masaru Ibuka in Sony’s Purposes of Incorporation

“work to their hearts’ content”. what a wonderful phrase

Then your light will break forth like the dawn, and your healing will come – Isaiah 58:8 (my own altered translation)

There might be tens of thousands of people who conceive the possibility of the same invention at the same time.
But less than one in ten of them imagines how it might be done.
Of these who see how to do it, only one in ten will actually think through the practical details and specific solutions.
Of these only one in ten will actually get the design to work for very long.
And finally, usually only one of all those many thousands with the idea will get the invention to stick in the culture.
At our lab we engage in all these levels of discovery, in the expected proportions.
-Danny Hillis via What Technology Wants

In physical talents he was a pauper when he started; by grace of his intellect he is incomparably the richest of all the animals now. But he is still a pauper in morals — incomparably the poorest of the creatures in that respect. The gods value morals alone; they have paid no compliments to intellect, nor offered it a single reward. If intellect is welcome anywhere in the other world, it is in hell, not heaven. – Mark Twain

Becoming an artist is the best way to avoid annoying, ordinary society – Seijuro Hiko in Rurouni Kenshin

enjoyed the anime

It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat. – Theodore Roosevelt.

“cold and timid souls”…

The Wall Street Journal is read by the people who run the country, the New York Times is read by the people who think they run the country, […] the San Francisco Chronicle is read by people who aren’t sure whether there is a country or if anybody’s running it, and the Miami Herald is read by people who are running another country