New wisdom for the Personal Bible

Every few months I like to add new things that I’ve learned to my Personal Bible. Here’s the latest document [in PDF].

Today there are two items: a NYT article about what it’s like to be in your 40s (it’s always good to be prepared :-), and some highlights from James Clear’s highlights of the sweeping book The Lessons of History.

How to Survive Your 40s by Pamela Druckerman

  • But the number 40 still has symbolic resonance. Jesus fasted for 40 days. Muhammad was 40 when the archangel Gabriel appeared to him. The Israelites wandered the desert for 40 years
  • The seminal journey of the 40s is from “everyone hates me” to “they don’t really care.”
  • At 40, we’re no longer preparing for an imagined future life. Our real lives are, indisputably, happening right now. We’ve arrived at what Immanuel Kant called the “Ding an sich” — the thing itself.

The Lessons of History by Ariel and Will Durant

  • People like to think they are a little special. Without this bit of vanity, we might find it harder to push forward. In a way, delusion is a motivator.
  • By and large, the poor have the same impulses as the rich, but with less opportunity or skill to implement them.
  • The hero is just the product of a situation. Not the other way around. If it were not for the situation, we never would have heard of the hero.
  • Morals are the way society exhorts behavior from its members.
  • You want to reign in your impulses and weaknesses to the point where they are useful, but not excessive.
  • There is no example in history of a society maintaining moral life among the masses without religion as a force for binding people together.
  • The most valuable talents and skills are confined to a few people, which means the most valuable wealth is confined to a few as well. This pattern shows up again and again.
  • All consuming toil is usually the price of genius.
  • Do not feel depressed that life may only have meaning insofar as man puts into it. It is remarkable that we can put any meaning into life at all.
  • Every religion should preach morality, not theology.
  • Cooperation is the ultimate form of competition.

The “Bible” has grown to 44 pages — it was just a couple pages when I started. At some point, I will probably filter and remove some content to keep it manageable and to reflect what I need most at that time.

You can download the latest here.

Thanks for reading! Here are prior updates [1, 2], and here’s a longer explanation for why I do this.

4 great life lessons from the movie The Gladiator

The Gladiator is one of my all-time favorite movies. Yes it’s a very violent, bloody film, and yes the special fx can’t match up to today’s latest and greatest. But the grandeur of the story, the solid acting, the brilliant Hans Zimmer score, and what I appreciate more and more with each re-watch: that the movie fits in quite a few powerful lessons about leadership, values, and friendship.

So here are 4 of those lessons, with accompanying screenshots. There are some spoilers, but it’s been 2 decades since the movie was released. There should be a statute of spoiler limitations :)

1. To inspire great behavior, we can appeal to even greater forces

In the movie’s beginning fight scene, Maximus says the following to his cavalry before their critical charge:

If you find yourself alone, riding in green fields with the sun on your face, do not be troubled…for you are in Elysium, and you are already dead!

Later, he adds:

Brothers…What we do in life echoes in eternity

It reminds me of a quote from Eric Hoffer’s seminal book on how leaders create mass movements:

In their battle orders army leaders invariably remind their soldiers that the eyes of the world are on them, that their ancestors are watching them and that posterity shall hear of them. The great general knows how to conjure an audience out of the sands of the desert and the waves of the ocean. – Eric Hoffer, Mass Movements

2. At the top, it’s all about gestures and symbols

At the end of that beginning battle, two critical things happen: the Emperor Marcus Aurelius refuses his son Commodus’s hand, but then he allows Maximus to support him onto his horse. The Emperor then leans in and whispers, “So much for the glory of Rome.” He recognizes what a poor picture he paints to the assembled soldiers, as his frail dying body can barely mount the horse without the aide of a ladder and Maximus’s help.

Later in the film, after Aurelius dies, Commodus offers his hand to Maximus, demanding his loyalty. Which Maximus rejects to his peril.

3. A leader (and a civilization) should have clear values, and they should be shared and repeated

“Strength and honor” are the first values. In the movie, it’s a phrase repeated often among the Roman army as a sort of call-and-response. I was reminded of how militaries and organized religions share this in common: short, simple, powerful phrases, repeated often, and usually in the call-and-response format.

The second moment is when Commodus says the following before he “hugs” his father Marcus:

You wrote to me once, listing the 4 chief virtues. Wisdom, Justice, Fortitude, and Temperance. As I read the list, I knew I had none of them. But I have other virtues, Father. Ambition. That can be a virtue which drives us to excel…

Hearing the word “ambition” used this way, I was immediately reminded of Silicon Valley, Wall Street, Ivy League schools, and the like. I do believe that for many people that run in those circles, ambition matters above all. Sure, lip service is given to other values like integrity and respect, but what seems to matter most is growth, or the size of your bonus, or the rank of your school.

Finally, Commodus, as the movie nears its end and the walls close in, comes to a painful realization when he discovers that Maximus is actually not dead, and his lieutenants had misled him:

If they lied to me, they don’t respect me. If they don’t respect me, how can they ever love me?

4. As the Garth Brooks song goes, “I’ve got friends in low places”

One of the film’s most consistently beautiful moments is the unexpectedly strong friendship between Maximus and Juba the Namibian. It is no accident that the movie’s final scene features Juba burying two small clay idols that represent Maximus’s wife and child.

Thanks for reading this rather long essay! I hope the pictures made it worthwhile :)

Ok, ok, just one last, relevant quote from the real, historical Marcus Aurelius:

The art of life is more like the wrestler’s art than the dancer’s, in respect of this, that it should stand ready and firm to meet onsets which are sudden and unexpected

If you want to see more essays like this, email or tweet me and let me know! My time lately has been spent studying and writing about religion, but at a deeper level I’m interested in life wisdom in all its wonderful formats.

100 years ago, Britain realized marijuana was harmless

In 1893, the British became concerned with what they felt to be excessive marijuana smoking in the eastern province of Bengal, India. So the House of Commons appointed a 7 member Commission to study the problem.

From Wikipedia:

The report the Commission produced was at least 3,281 pages long, with testimony from almost 1,200 “doctors, coolies, yogis, fakirs, heads of lunatic asylums, bhang peasants, tax gatherers, smugglers, army officers, hemp dealers, ganja palace operators and the clergy.

Their conclusion, in my words: There are no harmful physical, mental, or moral effects to smoking marijuana, with exceptions for excessive use, and for people who were already at risk due to previous physical or mental illness.

Some choice quotes:

It has been clearly established that the occasional use of hemp in moderate doses may be beneficial; but this use may be regarded as medicinal in character.

In regard to the physical effects, the Commission have come to the conclusion that the moderate use of hemp drugs is practically attended by no evil results at all. […] There is probably nothing the use of which may not possibly be injurious in cases of exceptional intolerance. […] As in the case of other intoxicants, excessive use tends to weaken the constitution and to render the consumer more susceptible to disease.

…the moderate use of these drugs produces no mental injury. It is otherwise with the excessive use. Excessive use indicates and intensifies mental instability

In regard to the moral effects of the drugs, the Commission are of opinion that their moderate use produces no moral injury whatever. […] Excessive consumption, on the other hand, both indicates and intensifies moral weakness or depravity

It has been the most striking feature in this inquiry to find how little the effects of hemp drugs have obtruded themselves on observation. The large number of witnesses of all classes who professed never to have seen these effects, the vague statements made by many who professed to have observed them, the very few witnesses who could so recall a case as to give any definite account of it, and the manner in which a large proportion of these cases broke down on the first attempt to examine them, are facts which combine to show most clearly how little injury society has hitherto sustained from hemp drugs

I came across this report as a result of my research into religion and drug use. The use of marijuana (known locally as “bhang”) within Indian culture and Hindu practice was at that time both common and longstanding. I can’t speak to the circumstances today. Relevant excerpts:

To the Hindu the hemp plant is holy. A guardian lives in the bhang leaf. As the wife of Vishnu, the preserver, lives in the hysteria-curing tulsi, or Holy Basil, and as Shiva dwells in the dysentery-scaring bel, AEglemarmelos, so the properties of the bhang plant, its power to suppress the appetites, its virtue as a febrifuge, and its thought-bracing qualities show that the bhang leaf is the home of the great Yogi or brooding ascetic Mahadev.

According to an old Hindu poem, on which I cannot now lay my hands, Civa himself brought down the bhang plant from the Himalayas and gave it to mankind. Jogis are well-known consumers of bhang and ganja, and they are worshippers of Civa.

In folk-songs, ganja or bhang (with or without opium) is the invariable drink of heroes before performing any great feat. At the village of Bauri in Gaya there is a huge hollow stone, which is said to be the bowl in which the famous hero Lorik mixed his ganja. Lorik was a very valiant general, and is the hero of numerous folk-songs.

Fascinating, no?

The Commission’s full report and some modern analysis can be found here.

10 observations on religion & faith in America, from the book American Grace

I finished the book American Grace [Amazon] more than 5 years ago, but decided to re-read my saved Kindle highlights as part of a renewed focus on studying and writing about organized religion and religious wisdom.

The book is dense. A ton of information on America’s religious landscape: how it’s evolved in the 20th century, which denominations are growing and shrinking, how religion overlaps and interplays with American politics, education, and culture. And great case studies. The book is more suited to an academic audience, given its heavy use of surveys and scholarly writing style.

Here are 10 things I learned, with supporting book excerpts.

One: America is unique among developed nations today in its strong religiosity

Americans have high rates of religious belonging, behaving, and believing—what social scientists call the three Bs of religiosity. […] The United States ranks far ahead of virtually all other developed nations in terms of all three Bs of religiosity.

The General Social Survey also suggests that the fraction of Americans with a self-described “strong” religious affiliation has held steady at just over one third (35–40 percent) since 1974 […] we begin with the bedrock fact that America is now and always has been an unusually religious country.

America is the birthplace of myriad new faiths, some of which flourish and some of which flounder. Examples abound, but include Pentecostalism, Seventh-day Adventists, the Christian Scientists, and the Mormons. In other cases, new religions were born abroad but found a receptive audience in America, like the Methodists, the Shakers, and even the Unification Church.

Alexis de Tocqueville, the famous French visitor to America four decades later, also thought that democracy in America rested in part on Americans’ unusual religiosity.

sociologist Robert Bellah has described the nation’s civil religion, which stands apart from the beliefs of any particular sect, denomination, or religious tradition. In his words, “the civil religion was able to build up without any bitter struggle with the church powerful symbols of national solidarity and to mobilize deep levels of personal motivation for the attainment of national goals.

Two: Women are more religious than Men…and within organized religion there is a gender ceiling much like in politics and business

Women read scripture, talk about religion, and read religious books more than men. […] No matter the specific yardstick, women exhibit a greater commitment to, involvement with, and belief in religion.

…the difference between religious and secular women is modestly but consistently greater than the difference between religious and secular men.

Women represented a paltry 8 percent of clergy in churches as recently as 2006–2007 (up from 6 percent in 1998), although women represent a third of all students in theological schools.

Three: Religious behavior varies widely by ethnicity, although religious bridging and mixing is on the rise

…who personifies the most religious type of American? An older African American woman who lives in a Southern small town. And the least religious? A younger Asian American man who lives in a large Northeastern city.

…the stronger the ethnic identity, the stronger the religious identity. One notable exception, as suggested by the data on counties, is evangelicals. They rank high on the importance of religion, but low on the importance of their ethnicity. Mormons are also off the line.

Among African Americans, in fact, religion has increasingly become a middle-class affair. Since roughly the mid-1980s, black college graduates have become increasingly likely to attend church.

Though the Mormon population in Utah has formed what is perhaps the strongest conservative voting bloc in the country, most members insist that this phenomenon is not the result of directives from inside the church.

Four: We tend to become more religious as we age

Most people become somewhat more observant religiously as they move through their thirties, marry, have children, and settle down. Then as we retire and approach the end of our lives, we often experience another phase of increased religiosity—“nearer my God to thee,” perhaps.

Five: Evangelism is dead / dying

Since this fact is not widely understood, it is worth reemphasizing—the evangelical boom that began in the 1970s was over by the early 1990s, nearly two decades ago

Six: American Catholicism is undergoing great change

…roughly 60 percent of all Americans today who were raised in America as Catholics are no longer practicing Catholics, half of them having left the church entirely and half remaining nominally Catholic, but rarely, if ever, taking any part in the life of the church.

…by dint of their sheer numbers, Latinos are reshaping the American Catholic Church, with every indication that their impact will only increase in years to come. […] Latinos comprise roughly 15 percent of Catholics age fifty and above. That percentage increases to 34 percent for those ages thirty-five to forty-nine (roughly the overall average), and then rises to 58 percent among Catholics under thirty-five.

Seven: Community and friendships are what keep people in a Church

The fact that friends rank so low suggests that it is more common to become friends with members of their congregation than to be pulled into a congregation because of one’s friends.

Americans may select their congregations primarily because of theology and worship, but the social investment made within that congregation appears to be what keeps them there.

Eight: Church attendance is positively correlated with education and income

Secularization (at least in terms of organized religion) seems to be proceeding more rapidly among less educated Americans.

…over roughly the last thirty years, it is the working class who have become less likely to attend church relative to the upper class.

Among African Americans, in fact, religion has increasingly become a middle-class affair. Since roughly the mid-1980s, black college graduates have become increasingly likely to attend church.

Nine: Religious Americans are more involved in their communities and give back more

…while religiosity has a significant positive effect on secular giving, it has an even greater positive effect on secular volunteering.

…the civic difference between Americans who attend church nearly every week and those who rarely do so is roughly equivalent to two full years of education.

Religious Americans express significantly more trust than secular Americans do in shop clerks, neighbors, co-workers, people of their own ethnicity, people of other ethnicities, and even strangers.

Other things being equal, the difference in happiness between a nonchurchgoer and a weekly churchgoer is slightly larger than the difference between someone who earns $10,000 a year and his demographic twin who earns $100,000 a year.

Ten: America is a place of great religious diversity, tolerance, and bridging

By a wide margin, Americans see the value in religious diversity for its own sake.

The explanation for the fact that so many Americans appear to disregard the theology of their religions rests in the religious bridging within their personal social networks.

America has had sporadic religious riots, but no sustained religious wars.

The Lindy Effect in religion, or why Hinduism will be around longer than Facebook

I plan to write more about organized religions and what we can learn from studying all of them, no matter how we describe our own faith.

Today, let’s briefly talk about the Lindy Effect. I first learned about it in Nassim Taleb’s book Antifragile.

The Lindy Effect, in Taleb’s words:

If a book has been in print for forty years, I can expect it to be in print for another forty years. But, and that is the main difference, if it survives another decade, then it will be expected to be in print another fifty years. This, simply, as a rule, tells you why things that have been around for a long time are not “aging” like persons, but “aging” in reverse. Every year that passes without extinction doubles the additional life expectancy. This is an indicator of some robustness. The robustness of an item is proportional to its life!

I’m always amazed at just how long organized religions have survived in some form.

Hinduism is 3500 years old.

Islam is 1500 years old.

Catholicism is 2000 years old.

By comparison, the oldest company – according to Slate Magazine – is Sudo Honke, a Japanese sake brewer started in 1141, or almost 2000 years old.

How many of you have heard of Sudo Honke? Or drank its sake?

The oldest company on the NYSE is Consolidated Edison, which was first listed in 1824 and was then called New York Gas Light. 194 years old.

The oldest university still in operation is The University of Karueein, founded in 859 CE in Morocco. 1159 years old.

And for a contemporary spin, let’s look at the most recognized business brands in the world and their current age in 2018 [source]:

1. Apple ($184 billion) – founded 1976, or 42 years old
2. Google ($141.7 billion) – founded 1998, or 19 years old (this surprised me)
3. Microsoft ($80 billion) – founded 1975, or 43 years old
4. Coca-Cola ($69.7 billion) – founded 1892, or 126 years old
5. Amazon ($64.8 billion) – founded 1994, or 23 years old

I challenge you to identify an institution today that is as old – and pervasive – as our most established religions. (seriously, I’m curious if they’re out there)

And it’s not like Hinduism and Judaism are struggling to survive, barely hanging onto relevance and meaning. Despite what media headlines and vocal critics would have you believe, religion is not dying. Far from it. We can park that discussion for a later essay, but the numbers clearly show that organized religions are still massive, and still growing [source].

Hinduism has 1B followers.

Christianity, 2.2B

Islam, 1.6B.

Judaism, 14M.

Those user numbers might not *seem* that impressive when compared to Whatsapp, which attracted 1.5B monthly users in less than 10 years. Facebook has 2.2B monthly users. Coca Cola serves almost 2B drinks every day.

But if forced to choose, would most Christians abandon their faith or Facebook? Would most Muslims delete Whatsapp or stop praying? How important is Coke, really, to society or the individual? I’m not sure. Just posing some questions.

Back to the Lindy Effect: the only tangible things I can think of that have survived for longer than religion are foundational technologies: like the written word (5000 years old) or metal coinage (4000 years old).

Otherwise you’d have to fall back on the non-tangible, like philosophy (Stoicism is 2300 years old) or stories (The Epic of Gilgamesh is 4800 years old).

So is religion a technology? What exactly is religion? What counts as an “organized religion”? All great questions, saved for later.

Let me end with:

If we believe there is at least *some* value in things because they are older and have survived longer – whether a book, a song, a person, or an institution – then we need to study organized religions more and more deeply.

If we read The Odyssey because it’s a Greek classic, then we should read the Rig Veda because it’s a Hindu classic.

If we listen to Beethoven because he was one of the composing greats, then we should listen to Christian hymns for similar reasons.

And if we believe some diets are better because people have practiced them for millennia (for example, the caveman diet, or the Mediterranean diet), then we should pay close attention to Ramadan and monastery culinary practices.

And finally, just reflect on how much time and energy and headline space we devote to the institutions of the moment, whether the American Presidency or Microsoft or cryptocurrency. If we are to believe the Lindy Effect, then it’s likely that all of these things will be gone long before Orthodox churches, and the Hindu festival of Diwali, and the Islamic practice of zakat (charity). Shouldn’t we start paying attention to those as well?

Thanks for reading. More ramblings to come!