TED talk notes: Chris Ryan on why humans are promiscuous but gorillas are not

Every week, I share my notes from great TED talks. Here’s the complete list (pardon the load time, it’s a long page).

Here are two talks from Chris Ryan about sex. I took notes on both, but the notes were smushed together like a chicken pot pie so it’s not clear what set of notes are from which talk.

Chris Ryan on sex

  • humans are more related to chimps and bonobos than one elephant species to another
  • the standard narrative: men trade resources for sex, a woman’s fidelity, and childcare
    • this has been the narrative since Darwin’s time
    • but it sets up male vs female as competing, oppositional genders
  • the standard narrative is wrong; instead, it’s about sperm competition INSIDE the woman’s reproductive tract, within an ovulatory cycle
  • this is fierce egalitarianism — everything is shared, which is the smartest way to survive in a foraging society
  • monogamous primates (gorillas, gibbons) have small testicles and penii
  • …while promiscuous primates (humans, chimps) have larger testicles and penii
    • the human female is rare in being available for sex through her ENTIRE menstrual cycle
    • humans have testicles in a sac outside of the body to keep them cool so they’re available for sex at any time
    • A chimp’s swollen ass signals she’s available for sex with different males; this confused Darwin because he expected a pair-bonding relationship
  • our sex act to birth ratio is 1000 to 1, whereas for gorillas (monogamous) is 10 to 1
    • most mammals don’t have sex unless there’s a good chance of fertilizing
    • why do we have so much sex? we use sex to develop complex social networks — common in intelligent social species like dolphins and chimps
    • sex is like vegetarianism — it’s healthy, it’s social
  • examples
    • in a SW China village, women and men are sexually autonomous, both have many sexual partners; when woman has a child, it’s cared for by her, her sisters and her brothers; the biological father is a non-issue
    • in a S American (?) village, children are viewed as product of many men’s sperm, so if you want a strong, smart, and funny child, you have sex with those types of partners; the partners all recognize the role they played in fathering the child

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Here’s the full list of TED notes!

Ian McEwan talks about writing but really talks about love and happiness and aging

I only recently discovered British novelist Ian McEwan [wikipedia], but he’s quickly become one of my favorite author-speakers. While I have yet to finish one of his novels, as the author of Atonement and Solar and 30 other books, I expect it will happen soon.

This talk is outwardly about how to write about love in fiction, but becomes a wide-ranging 14 minutes on everything from what makes Anna Karenina special to why writers don’t need to retire early. He speaks more articulately than I write, and I found myself taking extensive notes.

Here are some of my favorite quotes:

“it’s very difficult to do happiness in novels in a sustained way, we really leave that to poetry, lyric poetry, which can see our moments. its the nature of the human condition that we’re only truly happy in bursts, we can’t be constantly happy”

“literature loves difficulty, thrives on conflict”

“its the fleetingness that gives love its precious quality”

“the slow collapse of your body becomes a subject in itself”

“writers don’t have to retire early, they accumulate more life, more love, more disappointments, more of everything”

on novels:

“we have not yet invented another art form that allows us such access to the minds of others”

PS. I am starting a new project, tentatively called “A Good Life” (maybe “A Better Life”), where I explain what we can learn from books, philosophers, works of art, etc about how to live a good life. To me, good = meaningful = fulfilled = happy. Expect the first video soon!

18 favorite passages from East of Eden

I recently finished East of Eden [link] and it’s now among my favorite novels, up there with Gabo’s Love in the Time of Cholera and several of Murakami’s books. I was astonished, again and again, by how Steinbeck uses the same English language as you and I to create art in every paragraph. Using my Kindle I highlighted as many passages in this novel as I do in the most information packed nonfiction books, which is rare.

Here are eighteen of my favorite passages. There aren’t plot spoilers in the usual sense.

For a long time Adam lay in the cool water. He wondered how his brother felt, wondered whether now that his passion was chilling he would feel panic or sorrow or sick conscience or nothing. These things Adam felt for him.

“It doesn’t matter,” Cyrus said, and he repeated loudly, “It doesn’t matter,” and his tone said, “Shut your mouth. This is not your affair.”

I love you better. I always have. This may be a bad thing to tell you, but it’s true. I love you better. Else why would I have given myself the trouble of hurting you?

He spied on Alice, hidden, and from unsuspected eye-corner, and it was true. Sometimes when she was alone, and knew she was alone, she permitted her mind to play in a garden, and she smiled.

There was one thing Cyrus did not do, and perhaps it was clever of him. He never once promoted himself to noncommissioned rank. Private Trask he began, and Private Trask he remained. In the total telling, it made him at once the most mobile and ubiquitous private in the history of warfare.

Liza Hamilton was a very different kettle of Irish. Her head was small and round and it held small round convictions. She had a button nose and a hard little set-back chin, a gripping jaw set on its course even though the angels of God argued against it.

They called him a comical genius and carried his stories carefully home, and they wondered at how the stories spilled out on the way, for they never sounded the same repeated in their own kitchens.

She had a dour Presbyterian mind and a code of morals that pinned down and beat the brains out of nearly everything that was pleasant to do.

As with many people, Charles, who could not talk, wrote with fullness. He set down his loneliness and his perplexities, and he put on paper many things he did not know about himself.

“I would be disappointed if you had not become an atheist, and I read pleasantly that you have, in your age and wisdom, accepted agnosticism the way you’d take a cookie on a full stomach. But I would ask you with all my understanding heart not to try to convert your mother. Your last letter only made her think you are not well. Your mother does not believe there are many ills uncurable by good strong soup. She puts your brave attack on the structure of our civilization down to a stomach ache. It worries her. Her faith is a mountain, and you, my son, haven’t even got a shovel yet.”

She wins all arguments by the use of vehemence and the conviction that a difference of opinion is a personal affront.

“No, I don’t think she meant to kill me. She didn’t allow me that dignity. There was no hatred in her, no passion at all. I learned about that in the army. If you want to kill a man, you shoot at head or heart or stomach. No, she hit me where she intended. I can see the gun barrel moving over. I guess I wouldn’t have minded so much if she had wanted my death. That would have been a kind of love. But I was an annoyance, not an enemy.”

Una’s death struck Samuel like a silent earthquake. He said no brave and reassuring words, he simply sat alone and rocked himself. He felt that it was his neglect had done it. And now his tissue, which had fought joyously against time, gave up a little. His young skin turned old, his clear eyes dulled, and a little stoop came to his great shoulders.

“You know, Lee, I think of my life as a kind of music, not always good music but still having form and melody. And my life has not been a full orchestra for a long time now. A single note only—and that note unchanging sorrow.

Lee carried a tin lantern to light the way, for it was one of those clear early winter nights when the sky riots with stars and the earth seems doubly dark because of them.

Cal saw the confusion and helplessness on Aron’s face and felt his power, and it made him glad. He could outthink and outplan his brother. He was beginning to think he could do the same thing to his father. With Lee, Cal’s tricks did not work, for Lee’s bland mind moved effortlessly ahead of him and was always there waiting, understanding, and at the last moment cautioning quietly, “Don’t do it.” Cal had respect for Lee and a little fear of him. But Aron here, looking helplessly at him, was a lump of soft mud in his hands. Cal suddenly felt a deep love for his brother and an impulse to protect him in his weakness. He put his arm around Aron.

“They’ll change the face of the countryside. They get their clatter into everything,” the postmaster went on. “We even feel it here. Man used to come for his mail once a week. Now he comes every day, sometimes twice a day. He just can’t wait for his damn catalogue. Running around. Always running around.” He was so violent in his dislike that Adam knew he hadn’t bought a Ford yet. It was a kind of jealousy coming out. “I wouldn’t have one around,” the postmaster said, and this meant that his wife was at him to buy one. It was the women who put the pressure on. Social status was involved.

Cal turned slowly back to his desk. Lee watched him, holding his breath the way a doctor watches for the reaction to a hypodermic. Lee could see the reactions flaring through Cal—the rage at insult, the belligerence, and the hurt feelings following behind and out of that—just the beginning of relief.

TED talk notes: Thomas Piketty on why the US is more unequal than Europe, and Andrew Hessel on making cancer fighting viruses

Every week, I share notes from some of my favorite TED talks. Here’s the complete list (pardon the load time, it’s just a continuous, single page).

Thomas Piketty: New thoughts on capital in the twenty-first century

  • in the long-run, r > g (return on capital is greater than the return on economic growth), which leads to income inequality
  • in the last century, Europe and US have flipped: the US is now much more unequal
  • there are many reasons for this, including unequal access to skills, fast rise in top incomes
  • wealth inequality is always a lot higher than income inequality
  • wealth inequality is still less extreme than 1900
  • with r > g, initial inequalities are amplified at faster pace
  • there is always some level of dynamism and change (e.g., large families, poor investment decisions)
  • for most of history r > g (g was mostly 0 in agrarian society)
  • r > 0 was necessary for eventual labor diversification and societal evolution
  • both r and g have risen over time
  • long-run g is about 1-2%, we’ve seen unusually high g (3-4%) in post-war 20th century
  • long-run r is about 4-5%
  • r-g delta is caused by technology, savings rate, other factors
  • r > g particularly strong for billionaires; there are scale effects (e.g., portfolio management, financial instruments, tax evasion and lawyers and accountants)
  • main suggestion: increased financial transparency
  • if he were to rewrite the book today, he’d actually conclude that US income inequality higher than he reported

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Andrew Hessel: Synthetic Virology

  • the Pink Army Movement is the exact opposite of a traditional pharma company:
    • focused not on broad, but narrow-based drugs
    • not a closed system, but open-source
    • not for-profit, but non-profit
  • an oncolytic virus is a weak virus that can’t takeover a healthy cell, but can takeover a cancerous cell (which is by definition weaker than a healthy cell); the cancer cell then makes copies of the oncolytic virus, the cancer cell dies and the virus goes on to infect other cancer cells
  • cost of synthetically printing DNA is dropping dramatically
  • pharma is the opposite of Moore’s Law, costs of development have risen dramatically while # of approved drugs has fallen dramatically (me: a16z  jokingly calls this eroom’s law)

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Here’s the complete list of TED notes

December quotes: “We often confuse a clear view of the future with a short distance” – Paul Saffo

Curiosity is insubordination in its purest form. – Nabokov

I read Nabokov’s Lolita but his writing felt powerful but foreign, like tasting spicy Balinese food for the first time (I actually don’t know if that is a thing). Need to re-read.

God gives a choice to every soul between truth and peace. – Ralph Waldo Emerson

Mastery, in various forms, has defined civilization and gauged human achievement. To name, to number, to time, to represent–symbolic culture is that array of masteries upon which all subsequent hierarchies and confinements rest. – John Zerzan

An elegant, concise way to define humanity in its highest form.

Life consists with Wildness. The most alive is the wildest. – Henry David Thoreau

Reminds me of Nietzsche’s quote: “Society tames the wolf into a dog. And man is the most domesticated animal of all.”

Follow the best way of life you possibly can, and habit will make this way suitable and pleasant for you. – Leo Tolstoy

Yes, the power of habit!

I feel myself driven towards an end that I do not know. As soon as I shall have reached it, as soon as I shall become unnecessary, an atom will suffice to shatter me. Till then, not all the forces of mankind can do anything against me. – Napoleon at the opening of his Russian campaign

I am reminded of the theme and messages in Eric Hoffer’s The True Believer.

A donkey was placed between a pail and a bale of hay and starved to death – Derek Sivers

Therefore I say, the Perfect Man has no self; the Holy Man has no merit; the Sage has no fame. – Zhuang Zi

Remember that you are more free if you change your opinion and follow those who have corrected your mistakes, than if you are stubborn about your mistakes. – Marcus Aurelius

I am re-reading Aurelius’s Meditations. Wise and concise. I particularly enjoy the section where Aurelius describes what he has learned from the people closest to him, from his father to Maximus (I believe this is THE Maximus from Gladiator) to Roman senators to his wife.

The warrior and the artist live by the same code of necessity, which dictates that the battle must be fought anew every day. – Steven Pressfield

I am also reading Steven Pressfield’s The War of Art. It’s an inspiring book for artists, musicians, writers, creators (really, though, every job can be a creative one).

I do not think that there is any other quality so essential to success of any kind as the quality of perseverance – Rockefeller

To God all things are fair and good and right, but men hold some things wrong and some right. – Heraclitus

Reminds me of Shakespeare: “nothing is right or wrong but thinking makes it so.”

We often confuse a clear view of the future with a short distance. – Paul Saffo

I try not to forget this, especially in the context of technology startups and Silicon Valley.

To see a world in a grain of sand and heaven in a wild flower Hold infinity in the palms of your hand and eternity in an hour. — William Blake

Every thought a person dwells upon, whether he expresses it or not, either damages or improves his life. – Lucy Malory

An innovation is anything that breaks a constraint – Michael Raynor

A clear, concise definition of innovation, heard on the a16z podcast.

Without truth there is no kindness; without kindness the truth cannot be told. – Leo Tolstoy

I believe in Spinoza’s God who reveals himself in the orderly harmony of what exists, not in a God who concerns himself with the fates and actions of human beings. – Albert Einstein

I believe in something like this, too.

If you pick up a starving dog and make him prosperous he will not bite you. This is the principal difference between a dog and man. – Mark Twain

You can always count on Twain for a piercing platitude. Even if he didn’t say it, which is probably true for most quotes…

Put that coffee down…coffee’s for closers only. You think I’m fucking with you? I am not fucking with you. – Alec Baldwin, Glengarry Glen Ross

I highly recommend Alec’s podcast, Here’s The Thing.

Thanks for reading! Here’s a growing collection of my favorite quotes.