The Good Life: Lessons from Greg Epstein’s Good Without God

good-without-god-book-coverTl;dr: download my 5-page PDF guide to Greg Epstein’s Good Without God: What A Billion Nonreligious People Do Believe.

This is my 3rd Good Life guide. Here are the other 2:

  • Rick Warren’s Purpose-Driven Life [link]
  • Ben Franklin’s 13 Virtues [link]

I chose Epstein’s book because I’m curious about humanism and other modern-day life philosophies. As a big believer in religion and religious practices for helping us lead more meaningful lives, it only makes sense for me to study atheism, agnosticism, and life philosophies, too.

The Good Life guides share insights, conclusions, and questions from history’s greatest thinkers and doers on finding purpose, meaning, and fulfillment. My goal is to provide answers, and probably more questions, to living what Aristotle calls “eudemonia”, or simply, “the good life”.

It’s a 5-page PDF, free to download and share. Here’s the link to view it as a read-only Google Doc.

I’ve embedded a section below. This is my 3rd Good Life guide – please give me feedback and advice on how to make them better!!

Thanks and enjoy!

EXCERPT

WHAT’S IT ABOUT?

Warning: this is not a CliffNotes; I look for themes and insights to help us live a Good Life.

  • Americans have generally negative opinions of the nonreligious (in particular, atheists), but the nonreligious/”religious in name only” community is the fastest growing segment
  • Humanism is a leading non-religious philosophy and community. What is humanism? A desire to live with DIGNITY. To be the “superintendent” of your own life, to “lead ethical lives of personal fulfillment, aspiring to the greater good of humanity.”
  • What is the value of organized religion (eg, Christianity)?
    • When today’s biggest religions were created, people lived in a world of suffering – religions helped people alleviate their suffering through things like prayer, a belief in heaven
    • People don’t like randomness – religion helps explain things (like why we die)
    • Provides community and group identity, a key human need
    • Lays out a set of rules for good conduct (for example, the Golden Rule)
  • Non-religious belief has existed since the dawn of mankind, and is prevalent among history’s greatest thinkers (eg, Spinoza, Thomas Jefferson)
  • Epstein believes most people are driven by “striving” – striving for money, status, looks, respect

…for more, download the PDF or view it in Google Docs!

Here’s a list of all 1-page cheatsheets, and a list of all books.

February Quotes: “Limits, like fears, are often just an illusion” (Michael Jordan)

For a full list of my favorite quotes, see here. Send me yours, I’m always looking for more!!

If you want to be seen as courageous by some and hated by others, just say what you really think. – Tucker Max 

If you want to tell people the truth, make them laugh, otherwise they’ll kill you. – Oscar Wilde

/** I particularly like these quotes from Tucker and Oscar, because consistently saying what you think is such a difficult thing to do. And you shouldn’t do it all the time, of course, but as honest as I’d like to think I am, it’s just the tip of the iceberg when it comes to my real opinions and beliefs. This sort of thing requires tons of courage and tons of practice. **/

We shall not cease from exploration
And the end of all our exploring
Will be to arrive where we started
And know the place for the first time.
– T.S. Eliot

/** I’m a huge fan of travel quotes, in particular of Anais Nin. See here for more. **/

Inspiration is for amateurs — the rest of us just show up and get to work. And the belief that things will grow out of the activity itself and that you will — through work — bump into other possibilities and kick open other doors that you would never have dreamt of if you were just sitting around looking for a great ‘art idea.’ And the belief in that process, in a sense, is liberating and that you don’t have to reinvent the wheel every day. – Chuck Close

Limits, like fears, are often just an illusion. – Michael Jordan in his HoF acceptance speech

/** Agreed. Work hard, work constantly, and push past your limits. Bruce Lee said this much better than I could :) **/

It’s easier to hold to your principles 100 percent of the time than it is to hold to them 98 percent of the time. – Clay Christensen

/** The older I get, the more this holds true. Exceptions are for the weak. **/

Christoph: Are you sure that’s him?
Django: Yeah
Christoph: Positive?
Django: I don’t know
Christoph: You don’t know if you’re positive?
Django: I don’t know what positive mean

/** A funny scene from Django. **/

Amazing Media – 10 recommended readings

Recently I’ve begun saving and annotating my favorite blog posts, articles, videos, etc. Here’s the page where I’ll add new stuff (and old stuff, re-discovered).

I’ve learned that the value of great media is not the first time you consume it, but re-absorbing and re-experiencing it over time (and doing so mindfully).

98% of what we consume is crap – shouldn’t we treasure the 2%? You don’t see tennis players practice a new forehand once and just walk away. And there’s a reason why organized religions have ONE TEXT that they read, re-read, and re-re-read.

Here are 10 of my favorites:

Disappointed bear (c/o Buzzfeed)
Disappointed bear (c/o Buzzfeed)
  1. It’s Not About You: The Truth About Social Media Marketing by Tim O’Reilly (LinkedIn) – the most effective social media marketing is creating tools and content to help communities achieve their goals. Snippet: Your job, in short, is to uncover and activate latent social networks and interest groups by helping them to reach their own goals.
  2. The Dividing Line (Max Cho) – simple yet profound. If anyone is curious what Jeff Bezos is thinking…
  3. 10 Charts About Sex (OkCupid blog) – people are fascinating. Sex is fascinating. People’s sex habits, man! Snippet: Curvy women pass skinny ones in self-confidence at age 29 and never look back. They also consistently have the highest sex drive among the groups. Curvy, as a word, has the strongest sensual overtones of all our self-descriptions. So we’re getting a little insight into the real-world implications of a label.
  4. Applied Philosophy, a.k.a. “Hacking” by Paul Buchheit (Blogspot) – great and simple explanation of a valuable outlook on life and work. Although as important is WHAT you work on – problem choice is as important as the HOW. Snippet: Sometimes we catch a glimpse of the truth, and discover the actual rules of a system. Once the actual rules are known, it may be possible to perform “miracles” — things which violate the perceived rules.
  5. The Puzzle by Christopher Michel (Explorers.com) – beautiful and profound piece by Chris Michel on travel and by extension, life. Snippet: But the answers can’t be found in accumulating more. You knew that already. Well, so did I, but I’m not sure I really believed it. I do now. Happiness is reality minus expectations. And Americans, in particular, have some pretty high expectations. You do the math.
  6. That Which Does Not Kill Me Makes Me Stranger (NYT.com) – fascinating reporting on Jure Robic, one of the world’s greatest ultra-endurance athletes. Snippet: The craziness is methodical, however, and Robic and his crew know its pattern by heart. Around Day 2 of a typical weeklong race, his speech goes staccato. By Day 3, he is belligerent and sometimes paranoid. His short-term memory vanishes, and he weeps uncontrollably. The last days are marked by hallucinations: bears, wolves and aliens prowl the roadside; asphalt cracks rearrange themselves into coded messages. Occasionally, Robic leaps from his bike to square off with shadowy figures that turn out to be mailboxes. In a 2004 race, he turned to see himself pursued by a howling band of black-bearded men on horseback.
  7. 33 Animals Who Are Extremely Disappointed In You (Buzzfeed) – hilarious photos
  8. What Is Your Biggest Secret Desire That You Are Ashamed Of Telling Anyone? Reddit – love reddit for precisely these sorts of half-crazy, half-brutally honest windows into human psychology. The top vote-getter: In the middle of the night, I would pack one bag and drive away from my life. Not look back for one second and drive clear across the country. Find a small, rural town and just rebuild where nobody has an idea of who I am.
  9. Cities and Ambition by Paul Graham (PaulGraham.com) – a personal favorite among PG’s non-startup essays. Snippet: How much does it matter what message a city sends? Empirically, the answer seems to be: a lot. […] Most people who did great things were clumped together in a few places where that sort of thing was done at the time.
  10. George Orwell: Why I Write (Orwell.ru) – Snippet: And looking back through my work, I see that it is invariably where I lacked a political purpose that I wrote lifeless books and was betrayed into purple passages, sentences without meaning, decorative adjectives and humbug generally.

When You Are Old by William Butler Yeats

My all-time favorite poem. I read it for the first time as a college freshman. It just stuck.

There are many reasons why I like it – the rhyme and rhythm, the beautiful phrasing, the tender depiction of true love. But – like all great works of art – it leaves you with more questions than answers, wanting more.

Is Yeats talking about unrequited love? Or is he reminding us of the undefeatable passage of time, the temporality of all things? Or is he reminiscing on a deep relationship that has faded like the embers of a dying fire? Crazy stuff.

Here it is:

WHEN YOU ARE OLD
by: William Butler Yeats (1865-1939)

WHEN you are old and grey and full of sleep,
and nodding by the fire, take down this book,
And slowly read, and dream of the soft look
Your eyes had once, and of their shadows deep;

How many loved your moments of glad grace,
And loved your beauty with love false or true,
But one man loved the pilgrim soul in you,
And loved the sorrows of your changing face;

And bending down beside the glowing bars,
Murmur, a little sadly, how Love fled
And paced upon the mountains overhead
And hid his face amid a crowd of stars.

The Good Life: Lessons from Ben Franklin’s 13 Virtues

Ben's booklet w/ 13 Virtues
Ben’s booklet w/ 13 Virtues

Too lazy, don’t want to read: download my 2-page PDF guide to Ben Franklin’s 13 Virtues.

This is my second Good Life guide. Read the first one here (on Rick Warren’s Purpose-Driven Life). If you’re curious why I’m doing this, the first one will help.

From these books, I’ll share insights, conclusions, and questions from history’s greatest thinkers and doers on finding purpose, meaning, and fulfillment. My goal is to provide some answers, and probably more questions, to living what Aristotle calls “eudemonia”, or simply, “the good life”.

It’s a 2-page PDF, free to download and share. Here’s the link to view it as a read-only Google Doc.

I’ve embedded a section below. As this is my second Good Life guide, I humbly ask for any and all feedback, advice, thoughts. I plan to write a LOT of these – I need your help to make them the best resources they can be.

Thanks and enjoy!

EXCERPT

Franklin always carried a booklet with these 13 virtues. Each time he disobeyed a virtue, he’d mark it in his booklet. Since he focused on one virtue per week, he’d complete 4 cycles each year (13 virtues, 52 weeks). Here’s my (loose) interpretation of his virtues:

1. Temperance. Don’t overeat or overdrink
2. Silence. Speak only when you have something good to say
3. Order. Organize your life; pay attention to ALL aspects of your work
4. Resolution. Always do what you say you’ll do
5. Frugality. Spend little and spend wisely
6. Industry. Use your time wisely; stop doing wasteful things
7. Sincerity. Don’t lie; be honest and fair
8. Justice. Don’t harm others or ignore your obligations to them
9. Moderation. Avoid extremes; don’t hold grudges
10. Cleanliness. Regularly clean your body, your clothes, and your home
11. Tranquillity. Don’t get upset at small or unavoidable things
12. Chastity. Only have sex for health or babies, and never hurt others
13. Humility. Be super humble

Here’s a version with Ben’s original wording.

That’s it. Click here to download the full 2-page PDF!

Here’s a list of all 1-page cheatsheets, and a list of all books.