March: Amazing books and articles that I recommend

Each month, I’ll post the best stuff I read in the prior month. So this is for February.

Books

February was a bit slower than January, primarily because I was focused on getting things done for Hyperink and prepping for the Shanghai move. Even though I finished 4 books, the bulk of the reading was done in January.

I finished:

mastery-by-robert-greeneMastery by Robert Greene [Amazon]. Came highly recommended by Tim Ferriss, and I’m a big fan of Greene’s 48 laws of power. While I don’t find Greene to be the most entertaining or efficient writer, he makes a strong case for the importance of becoming “the best” at something, and the steps necessary to get there (including picking the right field, tons of hard work over a long period of time, finding the right mentor(s) to guide your development). Examples range from Mozart to Darwin to Paul Graham.

talent-code-by-daniel-coyleThe Talent Code by Daniel Coyle [Amazon]. Of the 4 books that I finished this month, I read through this one the fastest and its lessons will probably stick with me the longest. Coyle examines places that have generated a disproportionate number of world-class performers, ranging from Brazilian favelas to Korean female golf players, and deconstructs the 3 elements that they all require (ignition, motivation, and mentorship). Some overlapping themes with Mastery. It’s a bit handwave-y at times, and not without its share of “hindsight is 20/20”, but Coyle is a great writer and his research is both thorough and accessible.

the-big-miss-by-hank-haneyThe Big Miss: My Years Coaching Tiger Woods by Hank Haney [Amazon]. While in some ways, I’m disappointed that someone whom Tiger trusted so closely was willing to write an expose of sorts, I’m fascinated by elite performers and this is the closest anyone has come to understanding and then sharing insights about one of the world’s most private athletes (minus that one bizarre scandal, of course). The book contains much more golf jargon and Hank-giving-a-written-golf-lesson than I expected, so I skipped over those parts, but the few insights that Hank does share about Tiger’s personality, his approach to the game, and his behavior quirks are more than worth the price and time. For example, did you know that Tiger loves having a popsicle after dinner, but does not proactively offer them to his guests?

name-of-the-wind-by-patrick-rothfussThe Name of the Wind by Patrick Rothfuss [Amazon]. I generally don’t read fiction, because I like to think that reading nonfiction kills two birds with one stone (ie, entertainment AND education), but that’s probably wrong. However, I still don’t read much fiction. I used to love sci-fi, and this came highly recommended, and I found myself having a hard time sleeping soundly when I ended the night reading deep-educational/political-shit. So this book accomplished its goal (of helping me sleep soundly), and was very entertaining, and I will *most likely* read book 2. Rothfuss is a strong writer, and while there’s nothing groundbreaking in the story and I find his usage of written accents tew bee vairy bahhhhd.

Articles

Here’s the best stuff this month. Note that not all of it is “fresh”: I emphasize quality, not what just hit the wire (because most of the time that’s crap).

  • DEEP INSIDE: The Story of 10,000 Porn Stars and Their Careers (Jon Millward, his own site). Data-driven approach to shit guys talk about all the time.

    We now have our average porn stars: Nikki and David. They’re of normal height, but both weigh less than the national average. Nikki has smaller breasts than you might expect and she’s a brunette. She got into the business aged 22 and is originally from California—or at least, that’s where she now lives. David got into the industry aged 24.

  • Five important lessons from the dustup over the NYT’s Tesla test drive (Katie Fehrenbacher, GigaOm). Not the most comprehensive write-up but a good one on a fascinating story.

    Don’t f*ck with Elon Musk: A friend who’s spent a decade in the legal industry told me once that you shouldn’t start a fight unless you’re ready to take it to the mat; i.e. take it all the way. Elon Musk will always take it to the mat.

  • Deng Xiaoping and the Transformation of China (Bill Gates, his own site). Bill Gates writes book reviews. That’s right, Bill Gates WRITES BOOK REVIEWS. HOW AWESOME IS THAT?? PS I have yet to read this book but I will.

    If you’re going to read one book about modern China in the period after Mao, then this is the book you should read.

  • What tips and tricks have you learned that have made it easier to live in China? (Kaiser Kuo, Quora). Most of you know I’ve moved to Shanghai to experience China first-hand, and the advice here is very applicable and original.

    Chant the mantra, “Don’t be a whiny little bitch.” Don’t surround yourself with complainers. Steel yourself to the fact that people will crowd you, will spit, will cut queues, will stare at you at least outside of first-tier cities if you look foreign, will ask you direct questions that in your home country might seem wildly inappropriate.

  • Michael Jordan Has Not Left The Building (Wright Thompson, ESPN). Great article on the greatest retired athlete ever. Keyword: retired.

    Jordan might have stopped playing basketball, but the rage is still there. The fire remains, which is why he searches for release, on the golf course or at a blackjack table, why he spends so much time and energy on his basketball team and why he dreams of returning to play.

  • 50 Sure Signs That Texas Is Actually Utopia (Summer Anne Burton, Buzzfeed). Just because I’m from Austin, the greatest city in the great state in America, that doesn’t make me biased. Really!

    4. Breakfast tacos. An essential part of every Texan’s diet. The New York Times once ran an entire story titled “Tacos In The Morning?” about how Austin loves breakfast tacos and we were all like, “YES, TACOS IN THE MORNING. Tacos all the time.” Get with the program.

  • The Gates Foundation Annual Letter (Bill Gates, The Gates Foundation). Like all great, long-lasting performers (Jordan, Madonna), Bill Gates has reinvented himself well.

    According to a long-held Ethiopian custom, parents wait to name their children because disease is rampant, health care is sparse, and children often die in the first weeks of life.

  • What Shamu Taught Me About A Happy Marriage (Amy Sutherland, NYT). Not the first time I’ve shared this, but great reads are both re-reading and re-re-reading.

    I was using what trainers call “approximations,” rewarding the small steps toward learning a whole new behavior. You can’t expect a baboon to learn to flip on command in one session, just as you can’t expect an American husband to begin regularly picking up his dirty socks by praising him once for picking up a single sock. With the baboon you first reward a hop, then a bigger hop, then an even bigger hop. With Scott the husband, I began to praise every small act every time: if he drove just a mile an hour slower, tossed one pair of shorts into the hamper, or was on time for anything.

For a complete list, check out my Amazing media page. Most of these will be added there.

What did you read and love in February? Please share! Thanks as always for your time.

March Quotes: “The past does not repeat itself, but it rhymes” (Mark Twain)

For a full list of my favorite quotes, see here. Send me yours, I’m always looking for more.

At 15 my heart was set on learning; at 30 I stood firm; at 40 I had no more doubts; at 50 I knew the mandate of heaven; at 60 my ear was obedient; at 70 I could follow my heart’s desire without transgressing the norm. – Confucius

/** The man is so ridiculously wise and insightful…did you know the Chinese gov’t has setup Confucius Institutes around the world as an investment in soft power? **/

An intellectual giant. The world’s loss now that he’s gone. – random YouTube commenter on David Foster Wallace

/** Just started reading Infinite Jest. It is not easy. It is quite different from anything else I’ve read. DFW is clearly very smart, and a great explainer-of-things. **/

The past does not repeat itself, but it rhymes – Mark Twain

/** Another really smart man, and one who is able to tell hard truths by using humor. **/

Comparison is the thief of joy. – Teddy Roosevelt

/** Yup…desire is the root of suffering. **/

Evict your inner wussy – one of David DeAngelo’s 77 Laws of Success :)

/** I’ve had the good fortune to work with Rob Kelly, who is the former CEO of David’s company Hot Topic Media, and he clearly lives by many of these principles (whether consciously or not). Quite inspiring **/

“Tension is who you think you should be. Relaxation is who you are.” – Chinese Proverb

Desiderata by Max Ehrmann

Thanks for sharing with me Diane!

In the vein of Emerson’s familiar poem (which, interestingly, is not actually Emerson’s!), and among my favorites now. Hope you enjoy!

Go placidly amid the noise and haste, and remember what peace there may be in silence.
As far as possible without surrender be on good terms with all persons.
Speak your truth quietly and clearly; and listen to others, even the dull and ignorant; they too have their story.
Avoid loud and aggressive persons, they are vexations to the spirit.
If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain and bitter;
for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.

Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans.
Keep interested in your career, however humble; it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.
Exercise caution in your business affairs; for the world is full of trickery.
But let this not blind you to what virtue there is; many persons strive for high ideals;
and everywhere life is full of heroism.

Be yourself.
Especially, do not feign affection.
Neither be critical about love; for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment it is as perennial as the grass.

Take kindly the counsel of the years, gracefully surrendering the things of youth.
Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune. But do not distress yourself with imaginings.
Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness. Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself.

You are a child of the universe, no less than the trees and the stars;
you have a right to be here.
And whether or not it is clear to you, no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.

Therefore be at peace with God, whatever you conceive Him to be,
and whatever your labors and aspirations, in the noisy confusion of life keep peace with your soul.
With all its sham, drudgery and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be careful. Strive to be happy.

What we lack most…

What we lack most in the modern world is a sense of a larger purpose to our lives. In the past, it was organized religion that often supplied this. But most of us now live in a secularized world. We human animals are unique—we must build our own world. We do not simply react to events out of biological scripting. But without a sense of direction provided to us, we tend to flounder. We don’t how to fill up and structure our time. – Robert Greene in Mastery

Mastery was a solid read. Could have been condensed to 50 pages, like most self-help books.

February: Amazing books and articles that I read and recommend

Every month, I’ll post the best stuff I read, watched, listened to, etc. in the prior month. So this is from January.

Books

January was a huge month, in part because I was traveling. When traveling, I read a lot in my down time, and I’d just bought an iPad mini (and then promptly left in the seatback pocket of an international flight).

I finished:

blue-zones-dan-buettner Blue Zones by Dan Buettner [Amazon]. Given my interest in living forever, this was high on my list of longevity/health-related books.

Buettner does a great job combining storytelling, health science, and applicable advice into a fast read. Hara hachi bu!

 

good-without-god-greg-epsteinGood without God by Greg Epstein [Amazon]. I created a Good Life Guide for this book, check it out here.

Well-written, thorough in scope, and with real passion/emotion.

 

 

spark-john-ratey SPARK: The revolutionary new science of exercise and the brain by John Ratey [Amazon]. This book immediately changed my behavior. Basically a long, well-constructed argument for why we should all be runners.

Since finishing it, I’ve run on average 30 minutes/day, 5 days/week. Trying to up that to 45 minutes; ultimate target: one hour/day, 6 days/week. Aerobic exercise, to slightly adjust a frequent Ratey saying, is like “miracle-gro for the brain”. Better focus, better memory, better mood, better sleep, better sex, better everything. Read it now!

Articles

I mostly consume RSS feeds (using Netvibes), the occasional article from Facebook/Twitter, and what my friends forward. Here’s the best stuff this month. Note that not all of it is “fresh”: I emphasize quality, not topical-ity.

  • That which does not kill me makes me stranger (Daniel Coyle, NYT). The best article I’ve read on ultra-endurance athletes. Snippet: Around Day 2 of a typical weeklong race, his speech goes staccato. By Day 3, he is belligerent and sometimes paranoid. His short-term memory vanishes, and he weeps uncontrollably.
  • What is your biggest secret desire that you are ashamed of telling anyone? (Reddit). Amazing, the secrets we hold. Snippet: In the middle of the night, I would pack one bag and drive away from my life. Not look back for one second and drive clear across the country. Find a small, rural town and just rebuild where nobody has an idea of who I am.
  • The distractions of social media, 1673 style (Tom Standage). History repeats itself, which is why its valuable to understand history. Coffeehouses!! Snippet: With the promise of a constant and unpredictable stream of news, messages and gossip, coffeehouses offered an exciting and novel platform for sharing information.
  • A Pickpocket’s Tale (Adam Green, The New Yorker). Read this, and watch the videos too. Will blow your mind. Snippet: Attention is like water. It flows. It’s liquid. You create channels to divert it, and you hope that it flows the right way.
  • late bloomer, not a loser. (I hope) (Dave McClure). Another classic from Dave, honest, powerful, irreverent. Snippet: Most folks thought I was a decent fellow, but over the hill with my best days behind me… and I guess I thought so too. I watched as other friends helped make companies like Google and Facebook and Twitter into juggernauts, but mostly I was on the sidelines, only peripherally involved in their big ideas.

For a complete list, check out my Amazing media page. All of these will be added there.

In a followup post, I’ll talk about movies and podcasts.

What did you read/watch in January that blew your mind? Share away! Thanks as always for your time.